heteronormativity for dummies or, “why homophobes aren’t the only problem”
Some people will read this and think it’s OTT, but I have a friend who’s dad used to make a huuuuuuge deal out of them watching music videos with girls dancing. Kept saying stuff implying they fancy them etc. This is one example of a bunch of dad-related comments about gender and sexuality they remember growing up.
That kid began to feel really awkward about it and is now trans. But they themselves will explain they aren’t like “normal” trans folk*, in that they don’t feel they were born in the wrong body or even have a negative feeling towards their physical sex. The issue was the conventions of being male forced upon them by their father, and the ONLY escape from that, from that world portrayed by their father that they hated, seemed to be transitioning to a female role.
They’re mostly happy now, living in a gender-queer proud in-between world, but that isn’t the point. Their father really screwed with that young brain and made them immensely uncomfortable about looking the way they did but not behaving the way they should.
* Though I bet there’s a lot of people like this, but they told me they had trouble being taken seriously by medical professionals AND other trans people because they’re not a “real trans person”.
Shit is messed up.